"Save the Date" or No "Save the Date"

So the Berbanks wedding is in the middle of the "Great Plains" of Canada--- in my hometown. Unfortunately, my other half, Doc is from the Atlantic provinces--- many many miles away, and we actually live somewhere in between. This poses a lot of challenges with invitations, because everyone has to travel. [this begs the questions, why the prairies... it is a long story...]

One of the things that I thought might help was if we sent out "Save the Dates." This seemed to answer a couple of our challenges, letting people know they were invited even if we had not figured out all of the details, and also allow people to make their travel plans as soon as possible.

After "some" discussion, the decision was made, we would send them out---

I created a number of prototypes of design. It took a few attempts to find the one that Doc approved of. Others were deemed too "ostentatious", too presumptuous, too "straight", by Do. Finally, we found one, simple, clean, and within the colour scheme--- black and ivory (again, something we could both agree on. Everyone knows black is slimming).

But then it started. Doc asked me "who do we send these to", I answered "anyone we are asking". Doc then proceeded to provide me with a list of exceptions: People who weren't going to come, people who she did not want to pressure, people who would think it was strange, people who had never heard of save the dates....

It sounded something like this: "What about Aunt Joyce, she has bad arthritis and would never come?", "What about our butchy friend "Hoops"- she'll just laugh?", "What about cousin Carl -- he would wonder where the rest of the invitation is?" It went on and on and on.

In the end, I sent them to everyone I was inviting--- Doc went with a more selective approach.

PS: We called ours "reserve the date" --- we are a big fan of acronyms and no one wants to receive an STD in the mail.