Invites versus guests are two very different numbers.

The guest list is set, we think.

Figuring out how many guests to invite, who exactly to invite, and how to find balance in the guest list, has been challenging.

First, the prairie versus Atlantic challenge. It was difficult to decide where to have our wedding, and in the end we decided on the prairies-- where I am from. The problem is that it is expensive to have people fly from Eastern Canada to a little "town" in the prairies, so sadly, many of Doc's people may not be able to travel so fewer people may be coming from her list. This imbalance is further complicated by the fact that I come from a big family, and Doc comes from a small family.

We have talked about who to invite. At one point it was a handful of people, but the problem is, we want to have a party... a serious celebration. We do not want a wine and cheese, we want a party. So in the end, we just went nuts and invited everyone (cousins, friends, family, colleagues...) --- whoever comes will be welcome and will be shown a good time, and we will miss those who cannot attend.

In the end, I think we invited 140 people!!! I think only around 60 or 70 will be able to attend. If they do all attend, we have the room but we may be serving coleslaw to everyone for dinner.